You’re here because either you or your partner is jealous and this jealousy is painful enough in your relationship and life that you’re finally ready to do something about it. We’re relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins and you may not know us yet, but we’re experts on helping people like you overcome jealousy before it ruins your relationship and life. We created this website because we want to help you get rid of the jealousy that’s causing so much pain, misery and uncertainty between you and the most important person in your life. In order to best help you do that, we’d like to ask you a few questions about jealousy and your relationship. This will only take a moment and don’t worry… These questions and your answers are for your eyes ONLY as a tool for discovering just how BIG the jealousy problem is for you in your relationship and what your next steps are for overcoming it. So, take a deep breath, relax and answer the following questions as openly and honestly as you can…
Have you ever checked up on your partner by looking through their cell phone, computer, email, purse, briefcase etc. to see who they may be communicating with that you don’t know about?
Have you ever accused your partner of dressing too provocatively or too nice for the occasion?
Have you ever accused your partner of "flirting" or being too friendly with someone else?
Has your partner ever suggested they might consider leaving the relationship because of your jealousy?
Do you ever call your partner when you’re feeling anxious just to make sure they’re not with someone else or doing something they shouldn’t be doing?
Do you ever feel that your partner is looking at and paying too much attention to other attractive people when you go out?
Have you or your partner ever lied about where you were, who you were with or what you had been doing to prevent another fight or argument?
Do you find that you’re still angry or upset about being cheated on either in this relationship or one in your past?
Have you ever thought that because of your jealousy, you might actually be going a little crazy?
Have you ever wished you could talk to your partner about your feelings without them blowing up and getting upset?
If you answered YES to any of the above questions, then your jealousy is much bigger than what would be considered "normal."
The "green-eyed monster" called jealousy can and will destroy your relationship or marriage if you don’t do something to stop it in its tracks. If you’re at the end of your rope because of jealousy, hang on a minute because…
How do we know this? In the early days of our relationship–long before we were highly successful Breakthrough Relationship Coaches–we had our own struggles with jealousy. We’ve been there, maybe exactly where you are right now. In fact, things got so bad, we didn’t think our relationship would survive. It tore us apart– made us question ourselves, we felt unloved and it caused a great deal of unnecessary turmoil.
We don’t know how jealousy comes up for you in your relationship or marriage– but in our particular situation jealousy came at the worst possible moments…
For example… We would be out at a restaurant, a social gathering, a party or a get-together at a friend’s house and Susie would see Otto talking to someone else–especially another beautiful woman–and her whole body would start to tense up, her heart would start beating faster (and not in a good way), her mind would start racing and then she’d start seeing and imagining the worst possible scenarios in her mind.
It’s just that these jealous thoughts were like scenes from a bad movie that she couldn’t get out of her mind and the worst part is that they would seemingly come out of nowhere and just "blind" her to the point that this was all she could think about and focus on.
Her jealous thoughts were enough to drive any sane person crazy. When these thoughts would come up, she would start saying things to herself like… "He’s going to leave me for someone else–someone younger, more beautiful, more fun, sexier, more outgoing, more ‘spiritual’."
You name it and she thought it– and as we just said a moment ago–it very well could have totally ruined our love and relationship.
We discovered steps to take to save our relationship and remove the JEALOUSY out of our lives forever. And you can too!
Now at parties, get-togethers with friends or social gatherings, Otto is the one coming to find Susie — wanting to be with her, and she’s able to have a perfectly fine time NOT watching what he’s doing or keeping tabs on him. As Otto says–"This makes ME want to seek her out and be with her more than anyone at any party we are at… totally changing our dynamic at social gatherings completely."
We’re two people (like you) who’ve lived through this. We struggled with the apprehension, heart-break and uncertainty in our relationship. But you know what?
Our relationship used to be filled with jealousy and now we have a close, connected and incredibly passionate relationship that we wouldn’t trade for anything. We ended our miserable nightmare and so can you.
But you’re still here, because you hear that small voice – the one inside that whispers to you every single day. The same one that keeps you awake at night saying…
Maybe your partner has given you plenty of reasons to cause you to doubt their love, honesty, faithfulness and desire to be with you–and maybe they haven’t. Maybe you’ve been in other relationships where you’ve had a partner or spouse who’s lied to you or cheated on you. Maybe you’ve seen firsthand relationships (maybe your parents) or marriages of people you know, love and care about… Read more…